Tuesday, April 21, 2026

A GENTLEMAN WITH SNUGGLY INTENTIONS

 

We foster to create a bridge between a pup’s past life, where he was often abandoned, and his future life, where he will ideally be cherished. We welcome them knowing they will arrive wrapped in a bundle of anxiety, fear, and distrust.  We expect a few (or maybe several) sleepless nights to start, and know that the demands of the next day will still start early, end late, and take several zig zags during the day.  But again, we are fostering to create a bridge.  A bridge.  Solid, safe navigation crossing from one uncertainty to security. 

 

Our latest foster pup, a Golden/Labradoodle named Rocky, came as an excited and excitable 50-pound ball of love.  His posture is regal, with his long legs allowing him to reach your shoulders in a heartbeat.  Yet he has none of the aloofness of royalty, as his favorite position is sprawled on the couch next to you with his head and front paws in your lap.  Two days after arrival he was scheduled for his neutering visit to the vet, and he came back almost as energetic as before his procedure.  Perhaps as a testimony to his unwillingness to do anything to upset his new home life, he displayed amazing resiliency and demanded very little attention, never really complaining or requiring special attention.  No cone for Rocky… he stayed away from his wound and asked only for hugs and snuggles.  His foster brother Jack shared Mommy’s bed with Rocky, and while we’re not clear that we believe her insistence that she was not encumbered while sleeping with 100 total pounds of doodle in her bed, she’s sticking to her story that Rocky’s snuggles are well worth a little diagonal sleep positioning.

 

After 3 weeks of enjoying Rocky, we have been asked to inventory his characteristics, assess and describe his personality, and answer some pertinent questions about care and feeding so the California Doodle folks in charge of adoption can begin the search in earnest for Rocky’s Forever Family.  We have said we will keep him as long as necessary to find a perfect FOREVER family, as he certainly deserves that.  But as with every foster journey, Rocky’s with us, as filled with fun and adventure as it has been, has always been destined to end with a video conversation with the potential new family, a meeting, and a goodbye.

 

So we decide to do it again, knowing our tears will barely be dry when we get the next call from our Doodle Rescue friends who have saved yet another abandoned doodle from a shelter and a very uncertain future.

 

We seriously toyed with the idea of keeping Rocky.  Jack and he, as doodles of almost the same size, age, and level of enthusiastic energy, have become fast friends. Even Honey, our sweet feisty Chihuahua who determinedly leads our walks by taking 5 strides for every one of Rocky’s, has developed a kinship with Rocky.  And in the event of a tussle with Rocky, she knows her big brother Jack will stave him off and protect her.

 

But in considering keeping Rocky we faced the realization that we would be abandoning our initial mission in becoming foster parents… to help bridge each traumatized, neglected, or abandoned doodle from his awful past life to the promising new one that awaited him.

 

We have met others who do this work and see it as noble and meaningful.  We see in them the commitment and love of animals that drives the sacrifice of time and treasure required to do this work. And through that lens we recommit ourselves to welcoming the joy, savoring the adventure while it lasts, and mustering the courage to let it go.  And let it go we must. 

 

We will soon say goodbye to our sweet Rocky, as he will no doubt be adopted as soon as he becomes available.  That day will be a victory for the process, and will underscore the importance of the bridge… its strength, its safety, and its ability to route those that cross it with ease, that they may continue their journey to a new forever home and live the life they deserve.

                               

              

 

By the way, as our fostering continues, you may expect to see us out and about in my Jeep (the license frame to which says “This Jeep is for… rescues and adventures with pups.”)  And we will always try to expose our fosters (along with our own pups) to a variety of venues for external stimulation. You will find us at outside cafes and restaurants, with pups sitting by our side or lying down; we may be touring around our local malls encountering passersby without incident; and our pups will continue to enjoy pup cups going through the drive through at Starbucks and on the outside veranda at Temple Coffee and Chocolate Fish, 2 local coffee shops where they can learn to socialize with other patrons. If you see us, come over and chat! We’d love to introduce you. With foster pups, there’s always plenty of love to go around!

 

20 comments:

  1. Letting go is so hard but it’s the means to a forever loving home in the end!

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  2. I so enjoyed reading your blog. You are doing an amazing thing in fostering dogs.
    I know it is amazing to help these dogs find a home where they are going to live out their lives being cared for and loved as they should be. It must be similar to people fostering children and then letting them go to forever parents.

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  3. It seems as though both of you are teaming up and enjoying nurturing wonderful pups for a forever home.
    Good for you! 🫶🏼

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  4. Thanks for sharing, you certainly do a great job fostering dogs. The dogs that you get are very fortunate.

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  5. Beautiful, Alexis, beautiful!!!🐾

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  6. Another fine piece of writing and a lovely story. You do wonderful things in our world!

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  7. Praise you both for being foster parents and helping these pups build a bridge!

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  8. Lovely thoughts from you as always. Both grandsons have Doodles and they are truly loved and lovable. If only we were younger and out west we would think about adopting Rocky. But a dog in a NYC apartment is not always fair for either party - the dog or its owner. 🐶

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  9. What a joy to share your love by fostering these beloved dogs. Good job!

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  10. Love this! Fostering is so so special!

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  11. Congratulations on the “fostering “ that you are doing! They are very lucky pups!

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  12. Beautiful story. In my second life, I will foster. Can’t think of anything more noble than finding homes for animals.
    Enjoy the bridge from loneliness to forever.

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  13. What a fabulous story. You mentioned to me when we last spoke that you had a foster. I think it’s wonderful, the pups must be so grateful and thankful for the love and adventure you share with them. Maybe, one day I will be able to do the same thing and help our forever friends. Xxx

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  14. You are true Angels 🙏🏻…
    I will miss Rocky .. such a beautiful boy.
    ( wish I could take him)..
    I am so proud to be your neighbor.
    All my heart ❤️

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  15. You two are gluttons for frequent heartbreaks, but keep up the good work!🐕

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  16. Wow. Wow. Wow.
    This is one of the finest heartfelt essays you have written! Thank you for what you apre doing in this world, and for your beautiful invitation to, “Come and see.”
    We love you all greatly

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  17. What a wonderful post!!!!!!! That’s taking service to a whole new level. It must be extremely hard to part with your guests even though the bridge must remain open.

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  18. I loved reading this story of love and dedication to doing good for our fur babies !!!
    Great work ladies !!!❤️❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏

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  19. WOW!!Leave it to you !! I could never do this because I could never say good bye. Jen has a golden doodle,Teddy, and he is an absolute love. His favorite place is somebody's lap!! You two continue to amaze me!!

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  20. Finally took the time with my coffee this morning to read this! You capture the fostering journey so beautifully, Alexis. Good work. All the way around. ❤️

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